Funny place, this Blogosphere.
I am having a blast with this blog and I love all the interaction it has brought; a sense of camaraderie and like-mindedness, discovered. Thank-you for reading and for the feedback.
I read a lot of blogs; follow a great many and I am on a few loops. Sometimes I feel shy about leaving a comment or sometimes I disagree with a post so vehemently its better not to say anything at all.
For us, in this D/s journey, it is kind of hard to pick out a beginning place, while it could be said we weren't living it 24/7 there were always elements of dominance and submission well outside the bedroom.
But back when we were deciding to take those parts and adapt it into what we have now, within the structure of our already existing relationship, I was floundering, getting lost in what to call it.
And I needed to call it something, to try to communicate and connect with people who just might get it.
(Which I still kind of was, when I started this blog and have since been well-schooled, finding the words to get across what I am trying to explain or write about or describe our relationship).
Anyways, back then out in real-life, there wasn't any real examples that crossed my path of couple who were married or in long-term commitments that did this D/s thing like we do it or were doing it and that kind of added to my label-finding-confusion. So when I came across the label "Domestic Discipline" it made a great deal of sense.
It wasn't quite a good fit because it wasn't exactly what we had going on but it did seem to apply to the married/long-term-commitment folks more often than not and when I started coming across more blogs that dealt with the subject, I found it really spoke to the relationship elements of dominance and submission but a whole lot of them had a religious side to what they were blogging about or their relationships and frankly, not being a Christian a lot of it made me uncomfortable.
I kept looking. Somehow, someway, I found Elysia and Sara's blogs and became a lurker at both blogs, for a very long time. So much of what they both have written about resonates with me. With both of their blogs, what I appreciate so much and identify so much with is the honesty, the realness and how no matter what they are sharing with their audience, they speak about their partners in such a respectful manner.
That I think isn't always the case on other "lifestyle" blogs.
With both Elysia and Sara's blogs, I am horribly comment shy; never knowing quite what to say, wanting to say so much but feeling slightly out of place.
Today, Elysia has a brilliant post entitled "Ten Ways that Help Introduce Domestic Discipline", it was written for a "newbie" asking for information but in my opinion, I think not only is it an excellent resource for "how to to be a submissive/how to create a d/s relationship" but can also serve as an opinion for what to do when things aren't going so well.
Wishing you all a fantastic weekend.